This husband's problem screams of childhood sexual trauma. Right before I got married to my second husband, I was slammed with a soul crushing depression. Got a great therapist, got on the SSRI meds and, surprise! learned I'd been molested as a teenager. During the therapy, I was terrified of being touched or intimate in any way. I had physical nausea every time my fiance looked at me or snuggled up close to me on the couch. Long story short, we got through it. He was great, patient, loving and willing to wait. Also willing to stop in the middle of a make out session because the memories and fear were just too much.

The funny thing is, after a couple of years, I figured out his sex drive was way too low for us to continue as a couple. I complained, gave ultimatims, thought about affairs and tried to deal with his once-a-week libido. Finally I left. However, he was always physically affectionate, hugs and kisses, reaching out to touch me etc. It just wasn't enough.

That's why I think this LW's husband has a deeper issue. Childhood sexual abuse is a nasty, life threatening, multi-layered problem. And I can imagine it would be doubly so for a man. He may not be ready to talk about it, or he may not even know/remember it and with the new baby, it's surfacing. Good luck letter writer. Remember, take care of yourself first, no one else is going to do it for you.

I haven't flown Southwest for a while since I moved to France a few years ago. But before that, it was the only airline I flew for my trips up and down the west coast, and the occasional east coast trip. But my experience stays with me.

Southwest flight attendants are funny, polite and efficient. They tell jokes (even after 9/11!!). One time, close to Christmas, they got the whole cabin singing Jingle Bells. Imagine that on a United flight!

Sure you're packed in like cattle, there's no hot food, and you pay for your beer, but the flying experience is fun and relatively stress free. I loved their "no seat assignment" policy. Planes filled up and took off, sometimes in 20 minutes. Carry-on luggage wasn't a problem since the plane filled front to back and people put their bags above their seats.

You couldn't beat their free flight policy; buy eight round trip tickets (four if you bought online) and get one free. I sent me and my kids to the east coast several times even though my original purchased tickets were short little hops up and down the west coast.

But I think the reason my memories are so fond, is the image I have of relaxed, funny, efficient flight attendants. It's the flight attendants that make your flight experience what it is. When they're nice, you can forgive a multitude of air travel sins. When they're rude--don't even get me started on United or Air France--you feel like you're stuck in detention with the meanest teacher at the school.