As odd as his habits got, I remember that he used to live a really healthy life, at least that's what they said - no alchohol, vegetarian, lots of excersise - maybe it was all BS (except obviously he did get the excersise). he always seemed healthy, so I'm just astounded.

Pastorhorace, I'm really glad that he was able to make your life better in the 80s!

There are all sorts of poignant and informative stories on the subject here in Salon. It's a bit embarrassing that the most superficial - celebrity twitters and whatnot - had to end up here. I am not a person very interested in celebrity gossip, fashion, etc. and I get weary of it although I usually see how it applies to a blog on women's particular interests. This time, it just looks like Tracy got the short straw.

I think more people than admit it know that a little thing here and there doesn't mean the main relationship is necessarily unfulfilling. It doesn't mean what you have isn't good - just that you might need something else from time to time. Then it's discovered and there is weeping and teeth-gnashing and rending of garments.

That's exactly what I would have liked to say. You said it better. I don't think it's true for everybody, but for many, I think that if "fidelity" wasn't synonymous with "sexual exclusivity," we'd be happier. Happiness is a worthy goal, and it benefits everyone around you, including children. So why not just serial monogamy? I have nothing against that, but I've come lately to realize that people are possibly happiest with a combination of stability - someone to make a life with and grow old with - and adventures of other kinds.

Yes, I agree I don't like the sound of this at all. What I really wish is that for once this family would do something genuinely in someone's best interest rather than every little thing unavoidably coming across as a power grab.

Perhaps the fact that some people have gender disphoric disorder may imply that we need to have a gender in order to have a firm self-concept. Perhaps not. It's too bad a real human being has to be experimented on to find out, but I certainly do hope for the best for the little person.

You're probably right. I was looking at this bit from an interview which seems to indicate that Joe Jackson hasn't had a thought about what he did beyond whether it made money or not. From an interview wish Martin Beshear:

"It was always, 'Do it like Michael, do it like Michael!' But the others were very nervous and I was nervous too," Michael told Martin.

"I was scared, so scared that I would regurgitate," he added.

"What would produce that sort of reaction in you?" Martin asked.

"His presence, just seeing him," Michael said.

When asked, Joe told the BBC, "He regurgitates all the way to the bank."

...after the guy has caused 6 months out of 6 years to be wasted. It's been clear for a long time that the ONLY Minnesotans he was interested in were himself and "those who worked so hard" for him.

Not quite sure what you mean when you say:

"Is it really a good idea to post under the name of a real person from your past?"

Rebecca White isn't somebody from my past, it is indeed who I am. Sure, I hope I don't get tons of nasty calls and whatnot, but since there are a couple thousand of us in the country, I'm not real worried about it.

Honey, where you been? Lying isn't the only alternative, and indeed for me it's not one at all. Haven't you heard of polyamory? Even beyond that relatively organized type of open relationship, there are many many people out there who want this or at least are willing to try it. True, it's not for everybody, but if that's what you want, it's not that hard to find it. If I ever get married again, exclusivity will definitely be up for discussion - I've done both and I really think it just depends on the combination of people involved.

It's sad that we need it, but we do. I have to say, though, that this is one nice thing about getting older - it really does take a back seat and our other contributions are appreciated.

Insofar as men need this, by all means I hope they get it too. I don't know if men ever receive the message (as we still do) that their ONLY value is in their looks, so I don't know if it's ever that bad for them, but, Lord, they're beautiful too!

I hope that you didn't just change for her - I hope these are changes you value in themselves for how it improves your quality of life, because it may be too late with her. In my experience, once the nastiness starts, the hurtful actions, the hurtful words, a person is really all but physically done with it, and that is their way of beginning to assert their independence. It's also my experience that the longer a couple tries to stay together under those circumstances, the nastier things get.

If it were me, I'd want a separation so that whatever goes on when you are dealing with each other, whether it works out or not, it won't be happening in your daughter's home. it also gives your wife a chance to be on her own and see if, indeed, it's what she needs. Gives you the same opportunity.

You're making a very faulty assumption. Of course we'd be saying the same thing to a man. Any attempt to follow the letters here on different days shows that.