why does NC think we need to be told what movies to watch and that she is the one to tell us? She must be a movie genius. A movie genius who prefers rock hudson and doris day to warren beatty and faye dunaway. By the way, I'm old enough to remember Doris Day in Love Me or Leave Me, a fine old film with a fine old actor, James Cagney. It occurs to me that Ms. Day was injured during the filming of a rape scene during this particularly classy film. How ironic that she clings to the days of film when the goal was "to be classy." It seems to me that the point of this very informative review is lost on our movie genius, totally over her head.

if your husband continues to paint himself as the unlovable victim, he can act how he wants and still not take responsibility for his actions. Conversely, if you (the LW) continue to take the blame for saying "ouch" all the time (christ), you are responsible and you should be able to fix the situation. You're both wrong and Cary is right. Disengage. It sounds like you're both having a hard time right now with a death in the family or something and life just really sucks and you would like it not to. Well. Keep wishin and prayin.

as a someone who likes to paint but has had very little formal training, I am a very good copier. Franz Marc is a favorite, Deer In Snow, Two Cats Blue and Yellow, and Dreaming Horse are 3 of many copies I've done well (just gave them to friends, signed my own name). However, when I try to do my own work it's flat and uninspired. So I can understand picking someone else's brain for inspiration, and getting paid for it, even better, I guess.

because these people weren't copying, they were just using the famous names to their advantage, so yes, great art can spring from a lie.

The definition of an abusive person is someone who avoids and can't tolerate emotional intimacy, yet fears being alone even more, resulting in the push-me pull-you dance of "I love you and need you and when you come to understand me totally we can be happy and I can give you my unconditional love." That never happens. It's a hook and it keeps you trying and trying and never succeeding. They keep you around without ever giving of themselves. The person who told you to look at this situation and ask do I want to be doing this in 10 more years was absolutely right. I looked at my in-laws and saw them hating each other's guts for the past 50 years and loving it, and I knew I didn't want to do that. But leaving is not that easy either. Twenty years is a long time to be with someone and I guarantee his voice will be in your head for years to come, but there is at least an end in sight. It's just not like throwing down a dirty dish towel and walking out of the kitchen into a bright sunny day. I did it after 13 years though, and seven years later I recognize my ex as the stranger he always was.

You're forgetting Robert Deniro as a fat guy with a wide nose in Raging Bull, and Al Pacino as a blind man in Scent of a Woman. Raging Bull IMO has a crap story but has an hypnotic element about it because of its actors, dialogue and appearance. Whenever it comes on I have to look at about 65% of it. Scent of a Woman however I found nothing appealing and am pretty sure AP got his oscar just for hanging around long enough.

you are probably a very attractive young woman with a very pretty smile, and a good sense of humor. People probably enjoy your company and you get invited many places and have lots of friends.

However, what I anticipate for you in the future is that perhaps you begin to notice that as you visit your many friends, they begin not to take you very seriously when you converse because you are so very lighthearted. They know what kinds of jokes appeal to you and can anticipate easily what you might add to a conversation because although you're very pleasant, you're not terribly deep or mysterious. Gradually over the years you begin to notice that although you're welcome all the same old places with the same people, no one really confides in you deeply because they feel you probably wouldn't be interested in serious life issues, or you might find their troubles amusing and might actually laugh at them, which would hurt their feelings.

People will begin to look over the top of your head when you speak because someone more interesting is coming through the door. You're never invited to play cribbage or bridge because you never took the time or trouble to learn. This is the future I foresee for you as no one is 25 and adorable forever. People do grow accustomed to the bright and pleasant (which tends to fade anyway) to where it's just not that interesting after a time.

About your dilemma, your marriage will probably fall apart of its own volition and if it gets ugly, at least that will give you some life experience with which to seriously develop your character, or you can begin to drink. If you wonder why I think I know so much about you from a letter, I will tell you. You sound exactly like my older sister and that's what happened to her.