Letters to the Editor
Published Letters: 5
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Introverts of the World - we're here, we're quiet, get used to it
[Read the article: Are personality tests biased against introverts?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Cary: thanks so much for all the supporting links in your response to LW. The article(s) by Jonathan Rauch were fantastic, and the more lengthy link to Fudjack & Dinkelaker (indeed, their whole website is filled with great articles), made for some fantastic lunchtime reading - blissfully alone, on the patio, away from the rest of my co-workers.
Although I have not yet read "The Introvert Advantage", I do recommend, "Party of One: The Loners' Manifesto" by Anneli Rufus. It went a long way to making me (an INFP woman) feel less alone.
Excellent discussion too amongst all these letter writers!
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Sorry Pablo...
[Read the article: Are personality tests biased against introverts?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]But in the very last sentence of her letter, she writes, "just the portrait of someone who's desperate to pay her bills on time."
Still, you make valid arguments.
This really is a great thread, much more interesting than so many of the others. Maybe there is a way to somehow get introverts to come together?
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Suggestion....
[Read the article: Since You Asked: The Book]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Please include the letter (and especially the reader responses)to an entry that showed up in late August I think from the introverted person who just wanted to be accepted as she was. That letter generated some really excellent discussion!
Excellent idea to publish, Cary & good luck!
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We only get to borrow them for a little while
[Read the article: Raising Cain]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I was drawn to this article from the first sentence, which I wholeheartedly identified with:
"When I was pregnant with my first child, who is now 5, I was ecstatic to learn he was a boy. This was odd, since I did not much like those of the male gender. Little boys even less, because I'd seen the center-of-the-universe process by which they become men."
Back when I was 20, and just married, I also had had a series of life experiences that left me with unfavorable attitudes towards men. I too had hoped before I was pregnant that I would never ever have a stinky little brat of a boy--until I got pregnant, when suddenly I just KNEW that there was a boy inside of me.
Then, on the night of my son's first day on earth, bonding with him in my hospital bed, I GOT IT, all at once, and not unlike how some folks get Jesus: I knew that THIS little guy was going to be the definition what a man should be for me, and I knew that the one way, indeed the only way that my life was going to be right with him was to love him unconditionally, and to let him know that every day.
I got lucky, I know: my son was healthy, reasonably clever, never said "I hate you" or "if you loved me you'd buy me ___", and even after my entirely-conditional, emotionally abusive marriage to his father dissolved, he understood that it wasn't about him.
Now, this week, my son will turn 23, a college grad, and he'll be getting in his car and traveling west (from his life-long home in CT) on his Great Adventure to the West Coast.
Did I raise him to be a great man? Hell, I can't take credit for that, that fell under the purview of all the great men in his life, grandfathers and uncles and male teachers and friends. All I know is, I loved him every day, and he knew it. He knows how to cook and clean, he knows how to sew a button, he knows how to love because he was loved.
From the day that they're born, we as parents only get to borrow them until the world carries them away. Just enjoy the holy living crap out of them while you can, because 23 years goes by pretty freakin fast.
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Now you've gone & done it, Mrs. McJudgypants
[Read the article: I'm so damned judgmental!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I've just read LWs letter 3 times, along with all the responses. After my initial desire to open up a can o' whoop on the woman for her percieved superiority, my fiersomeness was tempered by the good words of Fennel & Dill, 56565656, flyover52, SB and the many anonymous posters.
The sense that I am left with is thus: LW, by putting her deepest concerns in writing, along with the hailstorm of critisicm that inevitably followed, is opening up a crack in the greater Karmic energy that is out there beyond us (and within us) all.
I expect that after she reads all of the postings and has a good long think about what her words (and deeper thoughts) really mean, that something, SOMETHING unexpected will happen in her carefully ordered life that in fact was going to happen whether she had planned it or not.
I'd like to be a fly on the wall when she has that all-too-human moment when she realizes that the S**t can indeed hit her fan too, whether she did all the right things or no.