Really, LW, Cary's advice to you was great. And forget those commenters telling you that you don't have a porn addiction. There is nothing wrong with watching porn per se, but you yourself think you have a problem with consuming too much of it. Look, you use porn, you are ashamed of the volume of porn you consume and you hold such unreasonable visual expectations of women's bodies that you'd rather watch porn. So in short, you do have a problem and luckily it's not incurable.

I don't really have much to say except that once you realize what it is that causes you anxiety and once you are on track with stopping your addiction, you should look closely at your relationship with your girlfriend and her emotional and sexual needs. Examine the dynamics of your relationship. Why is it that you'd rather watch porn than discuss your sexual desires with your girlfriend? Do the two of you have trouble expressing intimacy?

You really need to do this once you've understood your own personal grapples. One thing you said that struck me was this: "Sometimes, I wish she would catch me, but she is such a good person, it would break her heart." Such a good person? Is that the only thing you have to say? It doesn't seem like you feel very strongly about her. It simply sounds like you see her as a nice, patient person and you don't want to hurt your feelings. It doesn't sound like this is a women you love, with whom you have been discussing marriage. And don't get married until your addition is resolved and until your girlfriend knows about your addiction. (That should seem obvious, right?)

Would you would jump on the article and declare it sexist? Would you still describe the writer of the article as amusing? Why not write an article discussing culturally-imposed gender roles and the perceptions regarding gender and ability to empathize with others? Of course, you instead took the easy way out and say that most people are bores anyway.

I'm for neither men-bashing nor feminist-bashing, but this post was terrible.

I feel pretty silly saying, "Can you stop aaahhh-ing after every sip?"

.... okaayy. It doesn't sound like you are very close with your husband. Really, this problem you're facing isn't particularly hard to deal with- just tell your husband you're annoyed. If the two of you are close enough to be married, then you shouldn't be reserved about sounding silly in front of him. Maybe this is a sign that you are too distant and have trouble feeling comfortable in front of him.

I trusted smaller makeup companies with a do-gooder reputation, like the Body Shop, to have my best interests at heart and thought it was Big Beauty, like L'Oréal

So you actually bought the marketing ploy that The Body Shop is a do-gooder, Jessica? Sorry, but The Body Shop is just one of the numerous brands belonging to the L'Oreal Group.

www.loreal.com

As feminists who have proudly and enthusiastically supported Obama for some time, we are convinced that this is exactly the approach he will take. And while this approach is as old as feminism, it will be a breath of fresh air in the party.

You know what, I probably would have agreed with you a month ago. Perhaps naively, I didn't think Obama would move so much to the "center" (really the ultra-right fascist movement) so quickly, as Greenwald documented about a week ago. I sincerely hope he doesn't continue down that line.

Promising to wait for your girlfriend while she explores other relationships sounds romantic, but is not viable. You seem so eager to commit to your girlfriend, but how are you own needs being met? Your girlfriend says she wants to grow as a person and recapture excitement in your life; how about you? Going on vacations, changing sex routines and taking up new hobbies with your girlfriend all seem to be things that you are doing for your girlfriend. You are a separate, individual being and you should think about what needs you have in life (besides a relationship with your girlfriend). Exactly what would promising to wait for her accomplish? She will know she has a back-up boyfriend, you have promised her you won't explore with your own sex life, and you will constantly be anxious that your girlfriend won't come back. If your girlfriend has lost interest in you so much, how can she be the "right girl"? Both of you are young and should engage in self-exploration. It seems to me like you are reluctant to face this and consequently want to commit immediately. There are many people in this world with whom you can build long-lasting, fulfilling relationships. Just because you are hesitant to let go of this relationship does not mean that you will never find a fulfilling one when you are more mature.

All the best.