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the alliances you can't fathom were actually happening with the following motivations:
Your friend was focusing on reaching out to the other people who were on this vacation and trying to make sure that you and she didn't just "pack" together, to the detriment of what seems mostly like a sibling vacation.
And your siblings were trying to make sure she felt included and not like an outsider tagging along with a cliquish group of sisters.
And if your friend is such great company that you want her to come along on a family vacation, maybe your sisters thought she was great too. And they all see each other all the time, and you've become part of the same old same old sibling group, now, too, so how refreshing to have a new face and new stuff to talk about.
If you can get past the feeling of being excluded, you might be able to see the vacation as the beginning of a great new constellation that includes everybody you care about--and just work harder to keep yourself in the constellation too. As another poster said, why not just keep it light but direct: "Hey I'm alone in the kitchen here!" "Hey, you bums, did anybody wonder if I wanted to get a massage, too?"
