I suppose the same idea could be posed for women who are on the extreme side, and make it known, that when they walk into a bar, let it be known that it's like walking into a "meat market". Those are insulting sentiments, and they should be identified quickly as hurtful to both sexes. People need to recognize that hind sight is 20/20. In other words once you have tasted the fruit, you can't put it back perfectly the way it was before.

There are too many incidents to mention,I am not applauding getting modern, or just not worrying about the other persons emotional state of mind, (the person may just be getting over a break-up) should this be my business as the next perspective date? Or am I infatuated with the person, not thinking of this person as a person with feelings, and a life, that may not combine well with mine.

If I become too cautious, I also risk not knowing how far or not far a new partner is willing to wait, until we know each other better. If he asks me back to his apartment for a night cap, then I should know exactly what that means at that point.

A lot of people don't take mens libido seriously, but men do make it quite clear, "lets not fool around here". "We are both consenting adults, do you or do you not want to a. screw around

b.get down and dirty c. go look for my one eyed cat what ever the acronoyum that is being used to describe the "nasty" there is nothing cute about waking up the next day and feeling used.

There is nothing pretty about having to wonder "how many people have I slept with"? "Did I want to do with that, with him/her"? "What happens if a missed peroid should occur" more strain for the brain.

But, we are only young once and many of the times, are eyes are wide shut on this most scarry of pleasures. Some people have a better handle on things, than most. They select who and know why and what they want out of the encounter, or matter. Others are not as savvy, and end up feeling like they were tossed in the washer machine of life, and spun dry coming out like shriveled papper towels.

There are a lot of other things that suddenly stream through like what if, the person is married or has a steady other, what if the condom broke, and now I am pregant, what if he/she dosen't like me, but I like them? What about the spread of disease? So before we specify that it is the male that looks like the pig, I think it is wise to take a look at the female idea of hooking up, ever here a bunch of 20 something year old females talking, something like "Sex In The City"? So think again about sex only being a guy thing, I think women in general could be quite cliche' on the subject.