LW - what a horrible question you've asked. Hey, I'm a breast cancer patient, and, I'm sure, a nusiance. Maybe I should be euthanized too! Cary's spot on - you don't kill a creature because it's inconvenient, the thought of doing that says something very ugly about a person - you. Find someone to help your grandmother. Do you want to take away her close companion, who maybe what is helping her hang on to what mental capacity she has left? Get some help for her, to take the stress off the rest of the family.

Last Christmas I went to India to see a child I'm sending through school. I asked what she wanted from the US, and she said books. I took two suitcases and stuffed every inch with the books I loved at her age, some fun stuff, Nancy Drew, other books like science books, so many I could hardly waddle through the airport. To see the happiness on her face going through them all delighted me more than I can express. Children here are just too spoiled. Ask them what they want, and if it's too expensive, give a gift card towards the cost of the gift.

So you're busy. You have a child, which means, frankly, BAGGAGE. You're not getting any younger. Yes you are too picky, good god what a silly question.

I've been doing the online dating thing for awhile, and it's a lot like shopping on Christmas Eve. Not much left, and that's fairly battered, so be prepared to settle. And I include myself in that battered heap of leftovers as well. Online dating is a great way to meet someone for gentle companionship. If you're hoping to find the pizzaz and zip of dating in your 20s...wake up to reality!

Cary, you have got to have learned by this stage of life about bullies. And this neighbor is a bully of the worst sort. I feel badly for the LW, but the only thing he can do is let it go and just ignore the neighbor. LW should have ignored the neighbor after the vandalism incident when the neighbor didn't bother to reimburse the cost of the vandalism.

Sorry LW - but this is one of those lessons in experience. Be careful of this guy....

Don't feel too badly, LW, we all learn the lesson How Not To be a Sucker...I'm considered pretty smart but this is what I did..... a few years back I advertised for a housemate. A young woman applied. "Janet" had a hard luck story - deceased mother, drunk father. She wanted to be a vet one day and was working two jobs. I dropped my customary rent from 450 to 375 so I could help her. Fast forward a few months. She quit one job, was fired from two more. Turns out she was barely literate, much less college material. Still, I hadn't learned my lesson, so I dropped the rent AGAIN to 250 for two months, in exchange for her doing an agreed list of chores around the house. Of course, she didn't do the chores or pay the reduced rent, at this point, she sat around and watched TV all day. It took two months to evict her. Janet had nothing to lose, so, she called and told the police I had threatened her. She even threatened my father. She had nothing to lose, so she wanted to take me and my family down with her. I learned a lot from that situation....I'm no longer a sucker, that's for sure - one months rent up front, full rent due on the first each month, etc.....no problems since then.

Yes to Tom...all the Christmas movies made in the last decade or so focus on STUFF, I've noticed. Yes you can have Christmas joy, but only if you have the rights things in the background...I can't even watch that drival.

.....I was diagmosed with stage 3 cancer last year, and my doctor cheerfully told me, "Well, just make the most of the time you have left!" It took a while for me to get to the part about being grateful for what I had, for a while, all I could think about were the opportunites and things I've missed. Maybe your huaband's affair was something like that -especially if you married young.

As far as dealing with others goes, if anyone brings up the affair to you, you can shut them down with a "I don't want to talk about it" comment. It's your business, your grief, and you don't have to let busybodies in.

Good luck - this is awful. Oh, and FWIW, I was lucky, I'm in remission now, and I fired my original doctor.

I followed the link that went back to the original article and posts, and I was amazed to see the hatred expressed towards overweight. Even if you think fat is disgusting, the amazingly nasty comments "heaving blubber" etc. Why are fat people hated so much?

RevMom - I hope the LW doesn't look for her birth family! I had a close friend, in a similar situation to the LW. He did that, and found that his bio mother didn't want anything at all to do with him. He was the product of a rape. Best for the LW to work on herself, and let sleeping dogs lie.

...entertaining. I don't put a lot of faith in reviews, but I consider them along with other information, such as Consumer Reports, when buying a product. As for toilet paper....after a few months travelling in India, where I found myself in toilets that usually didn't have toilet paper, I found a new appreciation for that lowly product, European or American standard T.P, I wanted it!