You will need a new start, maybe a relocation. I did worse than what you did, and, that was the only thing that kept me from suicide. A new place with people who don't know you, a place to begin again, get a new job, if you can. Sometimes suicide IS an option if the disgrace is unsurmountable, and and you may have even lost your loved ones over this, only you know. I was able to pull myself out of the hole. I'm not sure you can, you might not be able to work again. If that's the case, there are web sites on how to do yourself in cleanly, or make it look like an accident. Shame is worse than anything else.

...are even worse than Ebay, especially for the lonely. I know someone who is going to lose her house becuase of buying stuff - similar 'antiques' one of a kind, etc. on, I think it's QVC. Those people let buyers call in, and give them all kinds of love and support for their purchases, which keeps them hooked in and buying junk.

I'd try getting her to do something that will make her feel better like volunteering for Homes for Humanity or whatever. That kind of thing can make you feel better about the state of the world. If she won't try anything else tho, it's time to take the pets and bail out.

AO

Not mentioned is the need for birth control. Otherwise we will always have this problem, and it will always get worse, like it is doing now.

..if you go to your previous employer and discuss this, Storm's right - they don't want to destroy you, they just wanted you somewhere else.

I have, unfortunately, been there and done that - 13 years of sobriety now. Storms idea is what I used, and I got another job.

I have always maintained a reasonable body weight - about 135 for my 5'6 frame - until I got cancer - stage 3 breats cancer with mets. I'm in remission, and part of the hormonal treatment has caused me to gain weight. The docs warned me about this, but I figured I'd overcome it. Now, I eat at home, eat healthy, go to karate 4 times a week, and I still weigh 175. These days I can't get a date unless I knock him guy unconcious first. Sure, if you are overweight for whatever reason it is good to find acceptance of your body, but if you are single, you have to find acceptance of loneliness as well. I volunteer as a EMT - I am very strong and agile for my size - so at least I have friends.

I don't know if it is as bad for men as it is for women, I suspect so.

Or spelled something like that. Anyway I actually like this place- you can get salads with grilled chicken, and their little chicken minis for breakfast are a reasonable value and the calories aren't too bad. They are also unfailingly polite, the 'ma'am' or 'sir' address, etc. And they all speak English, a rare treat in a service where usually you get mumbled at in who knows what language.

HILARIOUS answer! thanks for the LOL!

....All Suzanne S ever did was play a bimbo on Three's Company and hock cheap jewelry. It is very unfortunate that ANYONE would follow her advice on anything at all. Oprah ought to be ashamed of herself, giving Suzy an opportunity to make herself over into any kind of expert, much less medical.

I don't know why Americans think that 'passion' and other hot emotions can or even should last. LW it sounds like you have a life that most people would love to have - two children, more or less content wife. If you throw that away of course you will hurt your children. I've heard that crap 'if you are not happy, your children' won't be happy.' I call bullshit. How happy do you think you can be trying to date? You may not be able to attract those hot 21 year olds anymore, especially with two kids in two in shared custody. You may not look so good yourself, face it, all of us deteriorate as we age eventually. You want to go the rounds of dating on the internet sites, you may find passion, for a while, you might also find dissease, lying, god knows what else. Count your blessings, cancel the divorce, and STFU for pete's sake.

Kate, name one culture that celebrates, or even barely respects female sexuality. There aren't any. Your reference to "our" culture, meaning I suppose the US, seems to imply that somewhere out there in the world is a culture that DOES value female sexuality. There isn't one, it isn't just our problem.

...I live near Wasghington DC, and unlike many of my friends, I DID buy what I could afford. I was looked down on by my ever-mobile, heavily in debt, 4000 square foot home buying pals. Who are losing those homes now that reality set in - and they have the NERVE to expect tax payers to pay for it.

Kick 'em to the kerb in tents.

Orchids

...but maybe there should be. Souds like this LW was a tad plastered.

....my dentist, a friend of many years, have had people pay large sums to get vampire style teeth permanently implanted. If some folks are that crazy, then, webbed feet don't seem too far out.