Thank you to the previous posters for their dead-on (IMO) observations regarding Stephanie Zacharek. How can a film reviewer - a contributor for a respected website no less - continually give the impression that she resents the films she is required to review? After reading this latest review (Jarhead), I have learned nothing about the performances, the story, the context - nothing! It's several minutes of my life I will not get back, and quite frankly I'm sick of it.

Salon.com deserves better than what she is offering week after week. Checking out the Friday film reviews on my favorite websites is a weekly routine that I look forward to on Friday mornings. I'm tired of wasting my time looking for a well-written and informative review here though. No more, and I will remember that when it comes time to renew.

Hey Everyone,

I'm curious as to how many of this letter's responders are written by men (and I wonder with my tongue planted firmly in my cheek:)).

Um guys, think about where your Lady's face may be when you are in the 'missionary position'. Probably right around your armpit:)!

I LOVE the way my man smells, even after a hard day of work. As other posters have mentioned - scent is a very important part of sexual attraction. Think of the number of women who love to walk around in their partner's unwashed shirts! We love it!

BUT after hour 36 or so after a couple of lazy days off for him...GET THEE TO THE BATHTUB. Sorry babe, you stink.

A, um...'working girl' that I once spoke to, when asked about what I am sure are numerous righteous complaints regarding her profession, replied, "The five bad smells! Bad breath, stinky pits, unwashed hair, buttcrack, and sweaty feet!" She has a point! For the record, she said that stinky feet was on the top of the list:).

Yes, North Americans are way too obsessed with scrubbing ourselves senseless - women probably the worse (think of all of those silly 'hygenic' products that are advertised - do men really want a woman that smells and tastes like a summer's eve??).

But a shower once a day, especially when you know that it may help to get you laid?? The clean towels are in the cupboard and the soap is under the sink. You're welcome:).

If my soon-to-be hubby knew details of what my sex life was like with my previous long-term partner, I think he'd curl up in a fetal position.

But - and this is especially for John L. who posted further down this thread - I GREW UP. Just like this woman may have. Wild sex is not the be all and end all of a relationship. As another poster wisely observed: sometimes it can make a person just feel lonely, and kind of used. Like everything has to be a performance.

Actually, my ex was an actor. Her ex is a musician. Perhaps the 'wild sex' is a LOT about performing.

The wildest 'where are the cuffs and do we have extra batteries?' sex has never even come close to being with a vanilla partner when there's real love and affection there. If a man (or woman, let's be fair) cares enough to give a woman a safe, loving relationship in which she can express what she needs, and he loves to make sure she is sexually fulfilled - forget the 'wild sex'!!

For what it's worth: letter writer should have an affectionate, but serious, chat with his Lady. No mentioning of the rock dude. He needs to let her know that her pleasure means the world to him, and she should never be shy about expessing her desires.

That being said, buy a 'in good taste' vibrator and keep those extra batteries handy. Your Lady will adore you for it:).

Perhaps readers would find Zacharek's reviews more legit, and/or tolerable, if she didn't spew venom at 99% of the films she is paid to review. She does not inform a reader - she rants at them. Even ranting can be fun, when the writer has wit and humor. She doesn't have that gift though. Enough already. She writes a review as if the reader has already seen the film with her. She describes moments within a film that piss her off, or disappoint her, or whatever. As a reader, I HAVEN'T seen the film before it opens and cannot appreciate these little 'moments' that outrage her. I want to know about the performances, the story, the effects, the visuals, etc. etc..

Please, move her to the television column already. Bring in someone who appreciates film. One can absolutely LOATHE a movie, and still write eloquently about it. Charles Taylor used to make me want to throw him through a wall - but I still respected the hell out of him.

...but I understand that the differences may scare someone off.

That being said, the LW didn't really mention the immigration (possible) problems. As a person living in a foreign country, this is a BIG deal. Does he want to move to the US (by the sounds of his family situation, I'm guessing a big NO). So...will she move there? Some of us would embrace this possibility - others would run away in horror.

Personally, I think that you only live once, and if you have a great guy who is treating you well and you love him - you should take the chance. If it doesn't work...well...you took the chance. Consider it a life experience, and move on with your life.

But...if the LW (who surely is reading our posts) does not have the personality quirks to take these risks, well then, play it safe. Say Good-bye to your foreign guy and hope you find a local who will make you happy.

But Christ(?!), how can one reject a potentially exciting life to one that is boring and safe? Oh well, to each their own. Either way, best to you, LW!